Cancer

Cancer stole one of my best friends almost exactly four years ago, (yesterday would have been his birthday), and now my closest friend has non-hodgkins lymphoma.

When Dave got sick, it was like a living nightmare. He first identified a spot on his leg. We didn’t think it was going to be that big of a deal. It turned out to be a very big deal.

They initially did surgery to remove the affected area and said that they had successfully removed the cancer. Little did we know that it would spread months later and lead to him having to have his leg amputated above the knee.

Dave was a trooper, and through the help of a good friend who was also an amputee, learned to live with his new prosthesis and move on with his life.

Eventually, the bone became infected and he had to have the leg amputated at the hip. It was a disaster. He was then back in a wheelchair or struggling to learn to balance on crutches all over again. He was a giant tree of a man, and it was very difficult for him to stay upright.

Thankfully, his friends built a ramp into his home and did what they could to keep his spirits up.

That helped until we found out that the cancer had metastasized into his stomach. Dave lasted three weeks past that point. It was terrible to visit him in the hospital and have the only recognition from him be a tight clench of my hand and a half smile. The light in his eyes was gone.

I am hopeful for my friend with NHL because right now, it appears that the prognosis will be better than it was for David. It just brings up a lot of old, sad memories that I haven’t fully processed.

I’m convinced my friend will be okay because that is just the way it has to be. That’s the attitude I have to have. I also believe that it is the most likely outcome. It’s a beatable cancer. Dave’s was a 1 in 100,000 rare type deal. My current friend’s is not.

I just need to get past the month of November and its memories and get on with life. Focusing on that is much better than focusing on the past.

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6 thoughts on “Cancer

  1. As a melanoma survivor, I just want to say you did a wonderful job staying at Dave’s side. As you said, the situation is different now, but cancer is always hard – for those who suffer from it, and for those who have to watch. All the best for you and your friend!

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